I know how much this hurts.
The silence. The rejection. The not knowing if they're okay. Wondering if you'll ever hold your grandchildren again.
Some days you're crushed by guilt. Other days, you're angry because nothing you did was bad enough to warrant this. Most days, you're some exhausted mix of both.
You're not crazy. You're not weak. You're a mother whose child walked away—and that kind of pain doesn't come with a casserole or a funeral.
But I also know this: staying in the pain won't bring them back. And it won't bring you peace.
There's a path forward. I've walked it.
And I want to take you there.
You see, I've lived this—from both directions.
When I was younger, I was misled and chose to believe it. I found evidence of what people had told me, so I thought it must be true. I started looking at my relationship and the memories I have with that person through my new viewpoint. It made me grow cold toward a parent. I blamed them for much of my pain and had nightmares for 20 years. Eventually, that was resolved.
Years later, my own child cut me off and completely removed their young family from my life. I lost their spouse and my grandchildren that day.
By God's grace, both relationships are in a great place today! But I walked through fire to get there. And what I learned—about my child's perspective, about my own blind spots, about how to find solid ground when everything feels like quicksand—changed everything.
Now I use my own experience and additional education to guide Christian mothers who have been cut off by their adult child to prepare to reunite and learn to thrive while they wait. I offer real understanding that helps you move forward, prepared to reconcile and thrive while you wait.
I'm Marit Welker, a certified life coach, speaker, follower of Christ, and someone who knows this road because I've walked it. And my mission is to help Christian moms reconnect.
Start here.
There are different personalities and interests so there are two options. One is downloading a brochure to learn more. The other is much more personal and involves connecting directly with me for some free coaching. Choose your path and then click the buttons below to download the guide and start your journey, or to sign up for the 5 day challenge.
If you prefer to start out slow, we have booklets you can download. Each contains helpful information that will get you started to healing. The second helps you better understand what's happening if your child was caught up in the trends online, using the words toxic, narcissistic, as well as abuse and trauma and the subsequent "going no-contact." Those don't describe you at all. So what changed their memories? Download the guides below.
The Five Things I Wish I Knew When My Child Cut Me Off free guide is what I wish I had found when my son cut me off. It starts with the basics and some of the emotional understanding I needed, along with a reminder of God's love.
They Think I'm Toxic! is a booklet for the moms whose child has rejected them, not because they were an abusive or neglectful parent, but because they've rewritten history and not call you abusive or toxic. There's hope!
These 5 days walk you through a process of seeing who you are in God's eyes. It won't fix everything-it's only 5 days, but it will change you. You may start to feel lighter and a little less heavy, like many of my clients. It paves the way for healing and the transformations that are to come. This is the foundation that comes before we prepare you for the day that the phone rings. The next step will be to teach you to live an abundant life while you wait.
If you're ready to get started, I offer a free five-day challenge called STILL HERE to help you understand the first stage of recovery and preparation. My goal is to teach you how to thrive and be truly happy. That transformation, even in grief, is paramount for teaching you anything else. Five days of one-on-one coaching will help you see a glimpse of transformation in your life and demonstrate that my course works.
I put together a short guide called
"5 Things I Wish I Knew Me When My Child Cut Me Off."
It's what I needed to hear when I was in your shoes—and didn't.
It won't fix things. But it will help you feel less alone. It will help you better understand what's happened and why. And it will show you that there's a way through this.
I don't teach ideas. I teach what saved me.
I mapped the path for you, so you don't have to wander and keep making the same mistakes I did.
Now, it's your turn!
I don't teach ideas. I teach what saved me. I mapped the path for you, so you don't have to wander and keep making the same mistakes I did.
I don't want other women to suffer through this experience or make mistakes and lose their child for good. So I became a coach to walk other mothers through it who are ready to commit to making things better.
Let me tell you how this started.
I've been married 34 years, raised five children, and enjoy several wonderful grandchildren.
I've been through cancer, chronic illness, chronic pain, and a brain injury. I've wrestled with God through long, hard seasons—and come out the other side with stronger faith. I've spent decades studying scripture. I've sat with women in pain and walked with them toward healing.
And I've done my own deep work—the kind that transforms how you see yourself, your God, and your relationships. I've sought out extensive training and exceptional mentors, including the top professionals and specialized education in the field.
But what qualifies me most for this work isn't education or experience. It's that I learned how to thrive while I waited. I learned to get past the suffering before my son cut me off. I learned how to thrive even when things seem hopeless. I learned the path through and prepared for my child's return. And that's what I want for you- preparation and living in joy.
Start with the free five-day challenge. You'll see how this approach works and it's effectiveness.
I want that for you. I can't control your relationships or make promises of specific outcomes, but I can guide you to make any changes you need to be ready and to go forward in peace and joy, if you'll let me. Don't try to go it alone. You'll go through too much pain and waste too much time. Let someone who's been there on both sides and is successfully reconciled guide you through.
You don't have to figure this out alone.
God is with you on this journey.
And I'd love to walk this path with you, too.
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